STINA SANDERS

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Trauma recovery looks different for everyone. Unfortunately, healing takes time - no matter if the abuse lasted a few months or decades. It’s not an overnight process. Abuse can have a lifelong impact but the severity of its effects can be lessened by getting help.
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For anyone looking for support while healing from a relationship with a narcissist or a break-up, please reach out to me to book a session
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I’m definitely funny.
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I’m 100% going to be that w*nker that uses my credentials after my name, wherever I go. Next stop masters and PHD 🥵
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Often saying how we feel can come across as mean, when actually communicating your boundaries and needs is a sign of being assertive.
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Toxic relationships thrive on the make-up-break-up pattern and use sex as a manipulative tool in the getting back together phase as a way to secure us once again into the relationship. While this kind of tumultuous sex almost always feels passionate, when it's used to draw you back into a relationship, it most likely isn't safe and loving sex. If you are feeling trapped in a relationship, reach out to a friend for help creating some physical distance between yourself and your partner until you figure out what next step is best for you. Consult your GP and a mental health professional if you need further support on recovering from a toxic relationship.
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In a healthy relationship, there is mutual commitment to meet each other’s needs as much as possible. The joy of such a relationship is that within it, there is a deep connection, closeness, fulfilment and pleasure in each other. But it is not healthy for the relationship to be seen as the sole source of supplying all the emotional needs of one each (or one) partner. Having identified that we have unmet needs – ️recognise and acknowledge the hurt and the gap – name what it is you need that is currently lacking ️choose a good, calm time and talk it through with your partner, keeping the focus on how you feel and not on blaming them ️be as specific and concrete as you can about how they can help – “I really appreciate it when you say….or do….” ️keep it simple, and stick to one thing at a time; don’t overwhelm the other person with a huge list avoid the temptation to use this as a chance to vomit out a whole load of specific instances of your perceived neglect and in so doing make your partner feel rubbish, got-at, defensive ️keep it general, realistic, honest and forward looking pay attention to the needs of your partner: ask them what it is that they would most need from you ie affirmation, respect, support etc look outside of the relationship too in a healthy and appropriate way and invest in friends, hobbies and activities that don’t detract from your relationship but fill some of your unmet needs and enable you to be more fulfilled within your relationship ️create a new, positive habit of asking your partner each week to tell you little ways that you can meet some of their needs, and encourage them to do the same for you be patient with each other, and show grace. This takes time, a new way of thinking and a new language to learn.
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Love a ? This might be why….
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You know some of the red flags but what about green flags? I spoke to @metro.co.uk on some of the green flags to look for in a partner
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@metro.co.uk asked me for tips on how to overcome trust issues after being cheated on swipe to see more. For anyone going through relationship difficulty, grief or trauma and want to talk - message me to book a session
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Repeat after me: NO CONTACT
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But if light psychology reading for you 🧠
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Here’s how you can avoid an extreme emotional attachment also known as a trauma bond.
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in the bedroom #dating #redflaga
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So now you can definitely use the phrase “It’s not me, it’s YOU”.
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Cutting ties with a narcissist is difficult and can be bewildering. Having the support of friends and family or a therapist can get you on the path of recovery
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Ever wondered why narcissists use the silent treatment? #narcissist #silenttreatment
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@metro.co.uk asked me to comment on icing this morning 🧊 Icing is when someone puts the person they are dating 'on ice’. They convey their interest to their romantic partner, tell them that they can’t be with them now, but leave open the possibility of getting together in the future. The psychology behind icing is that it gives the person the option to decide whether or not they want to pursue the relationship in the future. Instead of making the decision to terminate the romantic connection altogether, the indecision temporarily blocks such a relationship from either ending or from developing to its fullest extent. It could be a person's attempt to ensure that there is a chance of developing profound long-term love, or it could be that the ‘icer’ wants to keep options open incase someone better comes along. While the first option is part of the process of courtship, in which two lovers get to know each other and deepen their connection. The second option results in a constant comparative search for the best available option. This search will have no end, because there is a constant supply of new people, whether that’s on social media or dating apps. Putting those you have just met ‘on ice' is understandable, however doing so to a person with whom you are having an ongoing relationship is more problematic, as it not only reduces the relationship developing into something more serious, it reduces the investment made into the relationship. The person you are dating is bound to sense this.
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Survivors can heal and move forward with the help of psychotherapy and support in narrating their story and resolving the trauma of emotional abuse. Understanding the dynamics of abuse empowers survivors to lessen any cognitive dissonance remaining as a result of gaslighting and other emotional abuse. Armed with knowledge, survivors understand the relationship cycle they endured and can move forward with enough protective armor such that they can jump off the merry-go-round of emotional abuse and be just fine. Drop me a message if you’d like to book a session over zoom or telephone
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The Drama Triangle was first described by Stephen Karpman in the 1960s. It is a model of dysfunctional social interactions and illustrates a power game that involves three roles: Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor, each role represents a common and ineffective response to conflict. • Victims assume themselves as powerless or incompetent and blame on Persecutors. They always seek for Rescuers to solve the problem for them. If the Victims continue to stay in the ‘dejected’ stance, it will prevent them from making decisions, solving problems, changing the current state, or sensing any satisfaction or achievement. • Rescuers constantly intervene on behalf of the Victims and try to save Victims from perceived harm. They feel guilty of standing by and ‘watching people drown’. They fail to realise that by offering short-term fixes to Victims, they keep Victims dependent and neglect their own needs. • Persecutors are like ‘Critical Parents’ who are strict and firm and set boundaries. They tend to think that they must win at any cost. Persecutors blame the Victims and criticize the behaviour of Rescuers, without providing appropriate guidance, assistance or a solution to the problem.
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You know when it’s time to go
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These are just some of the early red flags that could mean you are entering into an abusive relationship. For anyone who thinks they are in an abusive situation, please contact a mental health professional, your GP or alternatively charities such as women’s aid for advice and support
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Happy #nationalcomingoutday
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